The idea for this post began with a quote attributed to Michael Cunningham in A Home at the End of the World…
“We become the stories we tell ourselves”
This is especially true of writers. If you tell yourself, “I’ll never find an agent” or “My writing isn’t good enough to score a publishing contract,” chances are you won’t. Why? Because you’ve adopted a negative mindset.
Same principal applies to, “I can only write on weekends.” If you tell yourself you can only write on weekends, you’re already making decisions about your ability to write Monday through Friday, so if you slip behind the keyboard on a weekday, it’ll be more difficult to write. You’ve handicapped your creativity with a fixed (negative) mindset.
We’ve discussed fixed vs. growth mindsets before. I want to revisit the Mental Game of Writing *shameless plug for JSB* from a different angle, because it’s not discussed enough in writers’ circles.
RAY EDWARD’S THOUGHT EXPERIMENT
Imagine you’ve been given a treasure. This treasure, like all magical treasures, comes with conditions. While it’s an unlimited treasure, each day you can only take one gold coin. Just one. And every day you suffer from amnesia. When you forget you have this treasure, you lose a day of unlimited value.
How will you remind yourself to take the coin? Leave a note? Set an alarm? Phone a friend and ask them to remind you? How will you remember not to waste a single coin?
You already own this treasure. It’s called life. Consider this your reminder. Each new day offers endless possibilities, in life as well as writing. What will you do with your coin today? Will you squander it by scrolling through social media for hours? Or will you cash it in for its full value?
Look. We’re all guilty of procrastination from time to time. The trick is to prioritize your writing.
Every morning, I watch the sunrise. Not only does it inspire me, it grounds me with a positive mindset for the day. If you roll over and slap the snooze button, dreading the day ahead, you’ll start the day with a negative mindset. Things tend to roll downhill from there.
Have you ever heard a writer complain about being a lousy writer? That’s a fixed mindset. Their mind is made up. They will never write well. Period.
A growth mindset is positivity based. If that same writer said, “I may not be the best writer today, but I will be” they’ve flipped the script. Because now, they know if they continue to show up, they will improve.
See the difference?
The writer with the growth mindset is moving forward. The writer with the fixed mindset would rather complain about writing than study, hone, and implement their craft.
Writers aren’t the only ones who fall prey to a fixed mindset. It’s easy to do.
Do these excuses sound familiar?
- Too much to do today. I’ll write tomorrow.
- Can’t write now. I just worked an eight-hour shift.
- Too tired to write.
- Not in the mood to write today.
- I’m not inspired.
- I have writer’s block.
Every excuse is steeped in negativity, yet this is common rhetoric in the writing community.
Let’s pull back the veil on each one.
TOO MUCH TO DO TODAY — I’LL WRITE TOMORROW
When life shakes the to-do list in your face, it’s easy to avoid the keyboard. The problem is, tomorrow never comes. If you are a professional writer, or striving to become one, then you must prioritize your writing.
Can you carve out thirty minutes in your busy schedule today? How about fifteen? How about five? No one’s too busy to write a paragraph.
CAN’T WRITE NOW — JUST WORKED AN EIGHT-HOUR SHIFT
Writers all over the world work a full-time day job. Lee Child wrote his first novel during his commute to and from work. If you’re driving, can you dictate into your phone? Hands-free, please! I don’t want to cause any accidents.
Or write on your phone during your lunch break.
Or start supper fifteen minutes later than usual — after you’ve hit the keyboard.
Priorities, priorities, priorities. How bad do you want it? If writing full-time is your ultimate goal, you must continue to show up.
If you train yourself to write for fifteen minutes when you arrive home from work, the word count will continue to grow. An ever-increasing word count leads to confidence, excitement, and joy. There’s no downside. None. If all you have is fifteen minutes, you must protect that time. Tell your family and friends how much writing means to you. The house won’t burn down if you disappear for fifteen uninterrupted minutes, nor will your children starve.
Some days the words will flow. Other days they won’t. That’s okay. You still made progress. Don’t get caught up in evaluating your writing or hitting a certain word count right away, or you’ll backslide into a negative mindset. Celebrate the fact that you showed up.
TOO TIRED TO WRITE
With all the snow blowing I’ve done this winter, it’d be easy for me to use the “too tired” excuse. Battling Mother Nature does wear me out, but I also have multiple writing projects that need my attention. I take time to rest, enjoy a nice hot cup of tea, then hit the keyboard. If my hands hurt from squeezing the handles of my snowblower (a common problem), I may only squeak out 500 words that day — self-care is equally important — but at least it’s something.
NOT IN THE MOOD TO WRITE TODAY
If we sit around waiting to get in the mood to write, the WIP will languish on the hard drive for months, even years.
“The only way out is through.”
—Robert Frost
Here’s where having a solid writing routine in place makes all the difference. For me, it’s sliding on the headphones. Once I crank the music, the world fades away, my focus narrows on the screen, and I’m transported into my story. It’s a form of self-hypnosis. When I hear that playlist, my creativity soars.
Find a routine that works for you and stick with it. You may be surprised by how quickly you can jump into the zone.
I’M NOT INSPIRED
Seriously? I’ve never understood this excuse. What are you waiting for, a lightning rod to shoot from the sky? Lemme tell ya, watching cat videos on social media won’t inspire you, either. Stop wasting precious writing time. Slide on the headphones, or whatever works for you, and write something, anything, even if it’s only a paragraph.
If you don’t know what to write, review your writing from the day before. It’ll come to you. If you’re still stuck, go for a walk. Alone. And think about your story.
Planners may have a slight advantage over pantsers in this regard. If I know my next milestone in the story — first plot point, first pinch point, midpoint, etc., etc. — then I’m able to say, “Okay, the MCs need to wind up doing this or that. How do I get there from here?”
The answer may require research. Or the introduction of a new character. Or better yet, kill a character. Nothing kickstarts creativity faster than raising the stakes.
I HAVE WRITER’S BLOCK
Pah-lease. Writer’s block is nothing more than a negative mindset with a title attached. You’ve convinced yourself you cannot write for whatever reason. Flip the script in your head, and the words will flow like Niagara.
Perhaps, you’re overwhelmed. It happens. Take a breath. You’re okay. Move on.
Or maybe, real life has given you more than your fair share lately. Or you’ve written yourself into a corner. Figure out what the root cause is, but please don’t call it writer’s block.
Burnout is something else entirely — been there, done that, got the scars to prove it — the subject of which has too many variables to discuss now. Want me to cover it next time?
Maintaining a positive mindset takes work and perseverance, but you can do it… if you want to.
Therein lies the rub.
How will spend your treasure today?

Sue, a post full of gold coins! Thanks for a great start to the week.
My pleasure, Debbie. Glad you enjoyed the post.
Spot on, Sue (and thanks for the plug). Your post goes nicely with the conversation yesterday about the essential connection of true joy with discipline and work.
The best writing advice I ever got was to produce a quota of words, every week. Record them on a spreadsheet at the end of the writing day. That’s enough to get me to follow that old advice, “I only write when I’m inspired, and I make sure I’m inspired every day at 9:00 a.m.”
Agreed, Jim. Writers who have no problem showing up do benefit from keeping track of words, scenes, or chapters.
Some quotes attributed to Nora Roberts, who certainly gets the job done:
“Every time I hear writers talk about ‘the muse,’ I just want to bitch-slap them. It’s a job. Do your job.”
“You’re going to be unemployed if you really think you just have to sit around and wait for the muse to land on your shoulder.”
“A writer never finds the time to write. A writer makes it. If you don’t have the drive, the discipline, and the desire, then you can have all the talent in the world and you aren’t going to finish a book.”
Love these quotes, Terry! The first one sums up exactly how I feel. Haha.
Loved this post. The simple metaphor of spending your coin is so spot-on. Especially some days when you’re feeling laid low by events or lousy weather or a bout of ill health. You still have that coin and you can still find things to “buy,” however small.
Like you, I am a creature of the dawn. Partly because I have a little dog with a little bladder and we have to go out in the backyard at first light.. But what do I get out of it? Seeing the sun rise and being surrounded by a symphony of birdsong in the gloming.Or this morning, the rumble of thunder and smell of rain coming. All was good.
Thanks.
I used to be a night person. I still love the stars. I had the opportunity to watch the dance of the earth and the Shoemaker-Levy comet as the comet’s tail “turned”. It took about a month, but it was very cool.
Now I am a morning person. I see the dawn almost every day. On good days my morning commute takes me through Forest Park in St. Louis. Forest Park is about twice the size of Central Park in New York. The park gets busy during the day. Parking gets tight. The Zoo and museums fill. The roads slow down. At 6:30 AM it is normally me, a yoga class, some runners, and sometimes early morning golfers. The park looks different. I am not looking through a row of parked cars. I see the early morning mist burning off of the lakes, the birds, and very little else.
OK, I do have a timer so I can watch the ISS go by.
Love the stars and moon, Alan. I just can’t watch them for long before my eyes demand rest.
Dawn’s birdsong is the best, Kris. I stuffed insulation into one rafter of my covered porch for this little family of wood thrush. Oh, how I love their songs.
Rainy Monday here, too. A friend just texted to complain about it. Though I’m not oblivious to his plight (having to commute to work on a rainy Monday), I reminded him of all the life rain brings, nourishing roots of plants and trees so they’ll bloom soon, and offering cool sips of water to wildlife. Makes it a little more bearable.
Nice article, Sue! I’m lucky enough to get inspired when my fingers hit the keyboard each morning, lol.
Me too, Traci! 😀
Right on, Sue! I also love the coin idea. We each have coins to spend each day—and we can always find one to spend on our writing.
Like a marathon runner who had been out of practice and then runs a marathon without ramping up for one, I hadn’t been drafting for a while when I went to my annual writer’s retreat in the Olympic Rainforest two weeks ago. Instead I’d been pre-drafting two projects after doing revision on another. I went with great expectations about huge word counts for five days (30K anyone?). I ended up writing just over 19K, which was terrific, but also meant I had to recover once I’d returned home. So, I aimed for 100, 200, 300, 400 words a day, slowly building back.
Binge writing can produce words, but it can also wear you down and you might find your coins don’t go as far as they normally do when that happens.
But you can still spend them.
Thank you, my friend, for a very inspiring post this morning. Here’s to words this week and every week for all of us!
Binge writing can produce words, but it can also wear you down and you might find your coins don’t go as far as they normally do when that happens.
So true, Dale! Good for you for building back slowly. That’s the perfect way to avoid burnout. Learned that lesson the hard way.
Cheers to one and all for a productive week!
Btw, your writers’ retreat sounds delightful. This past weekend, I decided to turn the loft in my barn into my office. I’d wavered for days because the roof pitches low — right at eye level when inside — but a friend said he’d install a line of windows above my desk. It’ll give me the perfect view of the treetops. So exciting!!!
I love the coin metaphor, Sue. If I may add to you points . . .
Some days, I just don’t want to go to work. I want to hang out with my wife, or go shooting at the range, or just sit and read or watch movies. I want a break, and there’s no shame in that. It’s a choice, and I own it.
That slope won’t become slippery as long as I recognize that choice for what it is. I’m not a victim of outside influences. I’m not blocked. I’m either choosing to be lazy or choosing to something else, and whatever that motivation is, is worth the price of lost writing time.
To lament a reasonable choice is to squander a coin.
Excellent point, John. I wouldn’t call time with your wife as squandering the coin. Self-care and family time is important.
Some mornings, often after a restless night’s sleep, I might choose to watch a movie to ease into my day or play hooky. Nothing wrong with taking a “me day,” as long as we know why we’re doing it.
Great metaphor about coins, Sue. Time is the currency of the wise.
So true, Kay. 🙂