Note: We’re delighted to announce that writer Kristy Montee has joined the TKZ family. Kristy and her sister Kelly Nichols write as P.J. Parrish, the New York Times bestselling author of ten Louis Kincaid and Joe Frye thrillers. Their books have appeared on both the New York Times and USA Today best seller lists. The series has garnered 11 major crime-fiction awards, and an Edgar® nomination. Parrish has won two Shamus awards, one Anthony and one International Thriller competition. Kristy has her first post next Tuesday. Stay tuned!
Monthly Archives: August 2012
Love of Reading, Love of Writing
My twin sons are avid absorbers of books and between what they can read themselves, what we listen to on audio books and my bedtime reading to them, we seem to have amassed an amazing backlist of children’s books. Now, of course comes the inevitable plea-“why can’t you write a children’s book, mum?” (my current output gets little more than a collective shrug from these two). I have to confess I have an idea brewing which I think, maybe, possibly, might make a terrific series chapter book…but (and it’s a big but), books for children are not an endeavour I would ever enter into lightly.
Children’s books are, in my opinion, some of the hardest to write. Not only because children are the harshest, most brutally honest of all reviewers but also because I remember the impact reading had on me as a child and I want to live up to those expectations.
In the spirit of this, I have been compiling a list of my favorite chapter books I read as a child and identifying what made these so significant and memorable to me. There are books such as those by Enid Blyton that made me wish I could have adventures on my own island, classics such as Little Women that made me cry, and books like A Wrinkle in Time and the Narnia series that made me want to create my own fantastical worlds.
What sets all of these books apart from the dull readers we were obliged to consume at school was the same elements that make a great thriller or mystery – they created compelling characters and places, had terrific plots and pacing and were the sort of books you literally couldn’t put down.
So not much to live up to right?
As I continue my ‘research phase’ on children’s chapter books, I’d love to add some more titles to my list – ones that are the kind of books that stand the test of time. I’d like you to cast your minds back to when you were about eight or nine, and remember the books that made all the difference to you. They might be the ones that first inspired you to write – or the ones that made you the avid reader you are today…then let me know what you think about writing for children: a terrific new adventure or potentially treacherous seas?
“I” is for Integrity: Sue Grafton and the Self-Publishing Blowback
Location, Location, Location
Reader Friday: Open Forum
It’s Friday, and this week we’re leaving the blog open for general discussion. What’s on your mind, writing-wise? We’d love to get a discussion going today based on your input. If you have any questions for our bloggers and readers, this is a good time to post in the comments.
Here are some possible topics for discussion (but feel free to add more):
What are you working on these days? How is it going? Are you having any specific stumbling blocks you’d like us to talk about?
Have you been submitting work? If so, how are you finding the marketplace? What’s working for you, what’s not?
Happy Friday, guys! And as always, thanks for being part of the TKZ community!
TEN Simple Relaxation Techniques & Stress Relievers for Writers
Recently I served on a panel at the Romance Writers of America annual conference on the topic of “Care and Feeding of the Writer’s Soul.” Below is only a fraction of the empowering presentation put on to a full house by Ellie James, Trinity Faegen, and yours truly. I had no idea how important our message would be to the attendees who found us afterwards and hugged us with tears in their eyes. So my message today is to take care of YOU.
1.) Meditation – Meditation isn’t about chanting “Ohms” and contorting your body. ANY repetitive action can be considered meditation—walking, swimming, painting, and knitting—any activity that keeps your attention calmly in the present moment. When your mind is at rest, the brain can be stimulated in a creative fashion.
2.) Visualize Being Relaxed – Imagine a relaxing setting away from your tensions, your perfect dream spot. This could be a vacation spot or a fancy luxury spot where you are pampered. Visualization could also include something you touch to trigger that feeling of calm—a silk robe, warm water, or a cashmere sweater.
3.) Breathe Deeply – Relaxed breathing is deep, not shallow. Get in a comfortable position and let out all the negativity in a deep expelled breath through pursed lips. Drop your shoulders to release the tension and imagine your core as the powerful place of your strength. Keep your mind focused deep into your power spot and consciously expel the stress with each breath. Breathe in the new and expel the negative until you are renewed. Believe it and make it so. Do this TEN TIMES and feel your body relax more with each step.
4.) Take a Look Around You – Something an author should do anyway. Keep your mind focused on one thing. No multi-tasking. Stay in the moment and focus on one thing or activity. Staying in the present can help promote relaxation, without all the clutter the mind can generate. If you are outdoors, focus on a bed of flowers or the sound of the birds. If you’re in a mall, keep your attention to one window, maybe one pair of shoes. Focus on how it was created, examine the details. Tell a story about that one object. As long as you focus on one object in the present, stress will take a backseat.
5.) Drink Hot Tea – Make a moment in your day to have a cup of tea. Go green. Coffee raises levels of the stress hormone cortisol in the body, while green tea offers health and beauty. Chamomile tea is a traditional herbal favorite for its calming influence. Any black tea is a stress reliever too.
6.) Show Love – Cuddle your pet or give an unexpected hug to a friend or family member. Giving a hug is like getting one back. Snuggling is good too. Snuggle that spouse who supports your writing. Social interaction helps your brain think better. Ever try a hug or snuggle for writer’s block? Physically showing affection—like stroking your pet—may actually lower your blood pressure. It can’t hurt.
7.) Self – Massage – If you don’t have time to visit a professional masseuse, try giving your neck a rub with both hands or use one hand to massage the other arm and alternate. The act will increase your blood circulation and be part of your newfound ritual to take care of yourself. Reward yourself with this each day when you’ve hit your word count. Make it your ritual of caring.
8.) Take a Time Out – When you sense stress happening or too much is bombarding you, take a time out. Walk away. Go to your happy place. Don’t let stress win. Find a quiet corner or room and decompress. Listen to your breathing and your heartbeat. Slow everything down. Remember that time is always on your side.
9.) Take a Musical Detour – Maybe with your afternoon tea, add music. If your mind is focused on the beauty of each note, this can also accomplish relaxation by keeping you in the present, away from your stressers.
10.) Take an Attitude Break – Believe it or not, THIRTY SECONDS is enough time to switch from stress to relaxation if you make the time. To do that, engage your mind in positive thoughts. Do this by anything that triggers a positive feeling in you—picture your child or your spouse, imagine your pet doing something cute, or picture wearing your favorite jewelry or shoes. Whatever that image is, it will slow your breathing, relax your tense muscles, and put a smile on your face. Your heart rate will slow down and a feeling of peace will follow.
Share what gets you through stress. You have any good tips?
To close, I’d like to share another secret with you: the outrageous benefits of Laugh Yoga. The technique is simple and can be done at any time, including five in the morning in Mumbai.
If you have trouble with this video, click on the link HERE.
TEN Simple Relaxation Techniques & Stress Relievers for Writers
Recently I served on a panel at the Romance Writers of America annual conference on the topic of “Care and Feeding of the Writer’s Soul.” Below is only a fraction of the empowering presentation put on to a full house by Ellie James, Trinity Faegen, and yours truly. I had no idea how important our message would be to the attendees who found us afterwards and hugged us with tears in their eyes. So my message today is to take care of YOU.
1.) Meditation – Meditation isn’t about chanting “Ohms” and contorting your body. ANY repetitive action can be considered meditation—walking, swimming, painting, and knitting—any activity that keeps your attention calmly in the present moment. When your mind is at rest, the brain can be stimulated in a creative fashion.
2.) Visualize Being Relaxed – Imagine a relaxing setting away from your tensions, your perfect dream spot. This could be a vacation spot or a fancy luxury spot where you are pampered. Visualization could also include something you touch to trigger that feeling of calm—a silk robe, warm water, or a cashmere sweater.
3.) Breathe Deeply – Relaxed breathing is deep, not shallow. Get in a comfortable position and let out all the negativity in a deep expelled breath through pursed lips. Drop your shoulders to release the tension and imagine your core as the powerful place of your strength. Keep your mind focused deep into your power spot and consciously expel the stress with each breath. Breathe in the new and expel the negative until you are renewed. Believe it and make it so. Do this TEN TIMES and feel your body relax more with each step.
4.) Take a Look Around You – Something an author should do anyway. Keep your mind focused on one thing. No multi-tasking. Stay in the moment and focus on one thing or activity. Staying in the present can help promote relaxation, without all the clutter the mind can generate. If you are outdoors, focus on a bed of flowers or the sound of the birds. If you’re in a mall, keep your attention to one window, maybe one pair of shoes. Focus on how it was created, examine the details. Tell a story about that one object. As long as you focus on one object in the present, stress will take a backseat.
5.) Drink Hot Tea – Make a moment in your day to have a cup of tea. Go green. Coffee raises levels of the stress hormone cortisol in the body, while green tea offers health and beauty. Chamomile tea is a traditional herbal favorite for its calming influence. Any black tea is a stress reliever too.
6.) Show Love – Cuddle your pet or give an unexpected hug to a friend or family member. Giving a hug is like getting one back. Snuggling is good too. Snuggle that spouse who supports your writing. Social interaction helps your brain think better. Ever try a hug or snuggle for writer’s block? Physically showing affection—like stroking your pet—may actually lower your blood pressure. It can’t hurt.
7.) Self – Massage – If you don’t have time to visit a professional masseuse, try giving your neck a rub with both hands or use one hand to massage the other arm and alternate. The act will increase your blood circulation and be part of your newfound ritual to take care of yourself. Reward yourself with this each day when you’ve hit your word count. Make it your ritual of caring.
8.) Take a Time Out – When you sense stress happening or too much is bombarding you, take a time out. Walk away. Go to your happy place. Don’t let stress win. Find a quiet corner or room and decompress. Listen to your breathing and your heartbeat. Slow everything down. Remember that time is always on your side.
9.) Take a Musical Detour – Maybe with your afternoon tea, add music. If your mind is focused on the beauty of each note, this can also accomplish relaxation by keeping you in the present, away from your stressers.
10.) Take an Attitude Break – Believe it or not, THIRTY SECONDS is enough time to switch from stress to relaxation if you make the time. To do that, engage your mind in positive thoughts. Do this by anything that triggers a positive feeling in you—picture your child or your spouse, imagine your pet doing something cute, or picture wearing your favorite jewelry or shoes. Whatever that image is, it will slow your breathing, relax your tense muscles, and put a smile on your face. Your heart rate will slow down and a feeling of peace will follow.
Share what gets you through stress. You have any good tips?
To close, I’d like to share another secret with you: the outrageous benefits of Laugh Yoga. The technique is simple and can be done at any time, including five in the morning in Mumbai.
If you have trouble with this video, click on the link HERE.
Tips For Using Facebook
I’m preparing a workshop on Social Networking that I am giving on Sept. 8 and so I thought I’d share some of my tips with you. Let me know what you think about this material, which is only part of my presentation, and if you have any more advice to add.
Here is my author page if you want to “Like” me: http://bit.ly/c3YchC
If you are starting out, sign up for a Personal Profile Page. Add a profile picture. In the About section, put your links on top so they show first and then follow with your bio. Put in only the information visible to the public that you want to be seen. Where have you worked? Type in your publishers. Add a Project: List your book titles. Be careful with your contact info. How do you want people to reach you? To make changes on your Profile page, click Update Info.
I advise against giving Facebook access to your email address books. To find friends, type in someone’s name whom you know, and then click on his friends to find mutual acquaintances.When you qualify, and I forget how many friends you need, sign up for an Author Page. Click on Create a Page. Upload a banner or photo for your heading. Keep in mind that when a visitor lands on your page, they may only see the bottom part. Also leave space for your avatar. After you have 25 friends, you can shorten one of your links here: https://www.facebook.com/username
Apps and Tabs on your Author Page: Search for “Static HTML for Pages” in FB. Click Add to my Page. Select your fan page in the pop-up window. You’re allowed 12 tabs. Here are some to include: Author App, Blog, Excerpts, Events, Likes, Newsletter (Sign-Up Form), New Releases, Photos, Videos. Click on the little pencil in upper right corner of each tab to change the image or to swap places with another tab. Author app: https://apps.facebook.com/authorapp/?ref=ts
Import your blog into your FB pages using Networked Blogs: http://www.networkedblogs.com/blog
To edit the Author Page, go to your Admin Panel. Click on Edit Page. Note you can switch users and use FB as your author persona. That’s under Edit Page also.
A word of warning: Facebook doesn’t like you to run contests on its site but you can mention a contest you’re running elsewhere.
Periodically check your privacy and account settings by clicking on the little arrow on the upper right next to the Home button.
Make a post by filling in the box that says, What’s on your Mind? or Update Status. Then click on Publish Now. Use links and include photos when appropriate.
Click on Home to see other people’s posts and to comment on them. You can also “Like” a post or “Share” it with followers on your wall.
On your Author Page, click on one of the down arrows on the Admin Panel to See Your Insights. This will give you an idea of how many people viewed your posts, if anyone shared them, etc.
Link to your FB account from your other social net sites if you wish, but be careful not to flood people’s walls with your posts.
Join Groups. Periodically check through your list to see if you’ve been added to groups without authorization. If this occurs, click on that group. Click the arrow for a choice to Leave Group. Sometimes people enter you into a “Conversation” as well, and you can Leave Conversation as an option. To view your Groups list, click on “See All Messages”, top left middle symbol after “Facebook”. Groups will be listed in the left column. Or click on “Home” on your profile page. You can see your Apps here too.
Periodically remind folks to “Like” your FB fan page and to sign up for your newsletter so you can maintain contact.
Avoid clogging your posts with sale messages about your books. Share other links, newsworthy articles, and friends’ book releases in addition to your own. Be personal. Tell what book you read or movies you’ve watched, what recipe you’ve tried, or what sites you visited on vacation—but mention it after you are home. Don’t tell people you are going away beforehand. Also be careful not to get too personal about your family life. Always be aware of safety and security.
This applies to photos, too. Be careful of posting anything you don’t want strangers or your boss to see.
Tagging: You can create photo albums and tag people in your photos. You can also tag people in your posts by using an @sign before their name.
Successful authors on Facebook hold virtual parties, have interactive promotions, and stimulate discussions. Start a debate, take a poll, get a hot topic going. This shouldn’t be all about you. It’s more about the connection readers feel to you as a person.
I’m sure there’s much more advice out there, but these are the main points I have to make. Does anyone out there have additional tips to offer?
Writers: Work With What You Got
Kathleen Pickering http://www.kathleenpickering.com
Dig this ant. Biting a stick while being lifted off the ground AND holding on to what would seem the equivalent of Mount Rushmore to one of us humans.
I exaggerate, but you get my point. That little arachnid doesn’t even have a six pack, or long hair, a tattoo or wear the latest sports gear—not even a pair a sneakers to get the job done.
What he is doing, is what he was born to do. And that simple expectation, folks, is all we should want from ourselves.
Especially, as writers. If we didn’t have the tools of the trade, we’d be talking up a storm, making sure our stories were getting passed down and around because before authors had technology, pens, parchment or rock faces to inscribe their thoughts, they had mouths. Authors spoke their stories twining them into legends, fairy tales and fables for their clans.
It’s all about adapting. Life is that journey of knowing who you are and growing where you are planted. You don’t give up. You don’t gripe. You search out the most exciting and creative path and keep growing. Ultimately, you create beauty of your own by doing what you were born to do whether the world cheers you on, fails to notice or stands in awe at your creativity.
Working with what you got is the best gift you can offer. I invite you all to celebrate yourselves in your writing careers (or your whatever careers!) because as unique as you are, we certainly are lucky to have you.
This blog will be serving as my parting words as a “second” Tuesday blogger on The Kill Zone. Unfortunately, my Mount Rushmore is getting a bit bigger than I can handle, so I have to shave a bit off the boulder here and there. I have enjoyed my short time among the esteemed Kill Zone crew and am honored they gave me a slot!
I’m hoping that perhaps once in a while an opportunity will arise to sneak in a post. But, for now, I have to sign off. Thank you all for spending time here. I know my replacement will have plenty to share. So stay tuned!
I’ll see you guys on that writing sidewalk. You know, the one that’s always there—you just step on when you can, or off when you need to. I think I’ll be sprinting for the next few years, but don’t let me pass you by without a hello!
Write on, my friends, and thanks for all the fun. The Kill Zone rocks!!
xox, Piks
Olympics and Writing – Learning from Failure
The London Olympics are now over and, for Australia at least, there has been a lot of soul searching over the perceived failure of some of the Australian athletes.
I’m not a big sports fan but even I found it incredulous that the first question posed to many Australian athletes (particularly the swimmers) after they won silver or bronze was “How disappointed are you?” It got to the stage where our media was obsessed with the shortcomings of our Olympians rather than celebrating the amazing achievement involved in qualifying to even participate.
Though it’s only human nature to focus on winning, the current climate seems to belie the positives that can come from ‘failure’ itself. We hear time and time again of writers and artists as well as athletes whose failures helped drive them to even greater success. But this isn’t something most of us like to admit.
I mean who wants to fail?
Fear of failure is what stymies many of us from reaching for our dreams. It holds us back from taking risks and, when we do fail, there are always plenty of naysayers to crowd around and say “we told you so!”
But – and this is a big but..I’m a strong believer that failure is integral to success. I don’t think there are many successful people out there who won’t have experienced some low point, some kind of failure, that hasn’t made them more resilient and more determined to succeed. Look at Winston Churchill, Walt Disney or Albert Einstein. Look at the initial pile of rejections John Grisham, Stephen King and Dr. Seuss received.
JK Rowling talked about her own failures when she spoke to the graduating class of Harvard in June 2008 saying:
So as a way of throwing off the post-Olympics doldrums here in Oz, I’d like to invite you to submit the best ‘failure to success’ story. It can be your own story, someone else’s story or even one for your favorite bestselling author.
Come on, let’s celebrate failure.